Here it is: the moment you’ve all been waiting for. You’ve made your way down the aisle. You’ve been “handed off,” listened to your officiant talk about marriage and commitment, heard verses and poems read and are just about to finally, finally be announced “man and wife.” And you all know what comes after that.
You may kiss the bride.
Now, there may be a chance that this kiss is making you a teensy bit nervous. And there may be a chance that you’re not even remotely concerned – you’ve probably had a least a little bit of practice after all. But, in the event that having your first kiss as husband and wife in front of who knows how many of your family and friends is causing you to break out in a cold sweat, I’ve rounded up a few simple tips.
- Have a conversation about it. Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject of kissing with your soon-to-be spouse. Let them know if you’re nervous, or even if you just need to point it out as something you’ve been thinking about.
- Keep it PG. I go back and forth on this one. Honestly, you should feel free to express your affection for each other as you choose – it’s your wedding after all! But don’t forget about Grandma and Great Aunt Josie sitting in the audience ten feet away: it’s possible that their comfort zone in the kissing department is a little bit different from yours and the last thing you want to do is make them feel awkward.
- Practice. Hands down, best part of this whole thing. You may feel a little bit cheesy lining yourselves up to practice your first kiss – complete with a “you may kiss the bride” – but it will help you figure out what you’re most comfortable with. Plus, who couldn’t use some extra smooching every once and a while?
- Have fun! As with all things “wedding,” this is so important. Don’t sweat anything, let alone the small stuff. This is your day, your spouse, your first kiss. And all you really need to do is sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. If you do that, the rest will just come naturally.
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