Last week, my husband (by the way, yes, I still end up grinning like an idiot when I get to say the word husband) and I got back from the adventure of our honeymoon and started settling into the early mornings and grocery lists of real life. It’s actually fun, in a different sort of way, because we’re learning what real life means with each other in a completely different way from what it meant while we were dating. And that’s an adventure all by itself. However, real life is not exactly what I’m here to talk about today. Next week, maybe. But today, I’m all about the honeymoon.
Ahh, the honeymoon. The sand, the sun, the drink with the little umbrella and the crash course in traveling and living together. For a lot of couples, it’s a completely unprecedented experience. For others, it’s new in different ways. I’m going to go ahead and say that for most of us, this particular trip is unique in some shape or form. And so, after spending a little bit of time reflecting on my own honeymoon (and how I wish I could take one every year for the rest of my life, if not every month), here are my personal, very humble, recommendations.
1. Go somewhere special. This was advice given to me from a family friend after I told her that our original plan was to hop in the car and road trip our newly married selves down the Pacific coast, camping along the way. She pointed out that it might be fun to go somewhere that we’d want to go back to on a 25th or 50th anniversary, a place where we would feel spoiled simply by being there. She then pointed out that I’m the queen of road trips (the complete Taylor Swift and Bruce Springsteen collections, a tank of gas and a box of Oreos, and I’m there) and that going on one for our honeymoon might not exactly be far enough outside our norm. Upon further reflection, thank goodness we decided she was right.
2. Go somewhere with options. Yes, sitting on the beach all day is nice. But if you’re anything like Shayne and I, you can only handle it for about four hours. Which is why we ended up loving Maui. We went hiking (the waterfall in the photo? We got to hike through a bamboo forest to get to it. I don’t know about you, but that bamboo forest was a first in our book. And. So. Gosh. Darn. Cool.), we went snorkeling, we learned how to surf and we kayaked until my arms felt like they were going to fall off. And then, once we’d worn ourselves out, we went back to the beach and sat all day. It was perfect.
3. Go somewhere easy. Unless you are a much better planner and stress manager than I am, you will most likely not be able to handle the pressure of coordinating a trip to, say, Europe and plan your wedding simultaneously. I could never have done it. The transportation once you get there, all the cathedrals and museums and history that you know you’d need to see once you’d arrived, not to mention convincing Shayne to actually, finally get a passport, it would have been too much for us. That said, Europe is in our future. Just sometime when I won’t have to also be thinking about bridesmaids shoes. Because the Vatican and those shoes cannot both fit on the same spreadsheet and my knowledge of Excel is far too limited.
4. Realize that you may fight. I’m only saying this because no one warned me. And it’s not like we had any huge, heartbreaking fights. It was more like, after a small, silly, disagreement and miscommunication, I found myself looking at Shayne with a pair of red, puffy eyes and asking why are we fighting?He, of course, had the right response, which was to give me a big hug and tell me that everyone fights on their honeymoon and that it was all okay and we would work it out. I hope that you don’t fight on your honeymoon and that it is all pink and bubbly and happy. But if you do, you are not the only one. Cross my heart.
By the way, congratulations to everyone who made it all the way through that post. Because it was longer than the history textbook you had to read in 10th grade. Happy planning and even happier honeymooning!