Sharing The Love

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I love small weddings. An intimate ceremony of forty or fewer affords possibilities that just can’t happen in a large gathering. When you have a small wedding your guests can be more than an audience–they can be a part of the celebration. The small acts done in the course of the ceremony are typically designed to give thanks or receive blessings and are much more meaningful in a more intimate group.

One way to give thanks is with sharing something meaningful. You can share symbolic food items like heart-shaped strawberries, braided bread, something with a familial or cultural significance. Some couples choose to share wine or tea with guests. Small tokens of esteem or flowers are nice to hand out to each guest as a way to make a personal connection.

You can receive blessings by inviting everyone to speak or write a wish on a card which can be hung on an archway, placed in a box or book. Friends and family can take turns reading stanzas of a poem, lighting candles on a cake that all will share, making blessings over wine; the possibilities are endless.

I’ve done weddings in which the guests had copies of a poem written especially for the ceremony. I read the poem and the group read the chorus. In another ceremony, a small group of friends used flower petals to encircle the couple, spiraling the petals out into a larger circle in which the group stood.

The best thing about a small ceremony is the stress level is much lower. You can actually enjoy the occasion. And its meaning is much deeper when it’s shared with just a small gathering of close family members and friends.

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Sarah Sarah has been editing the blog at mywedding for four years. She enjoys watching classic movies, spending money on eyeliner that she never wears, and convincing brides to write thank you notes.

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