Last week we discussed all things fun and exciting about searching for a venue. But you are already learning that when it comes to wedding planning that snags can happen. Let’s say you have found the perfect venue, but due to either family or finances (or both), not everyone is on board. How do you handle it?
If you are having a problem with the cost of the venue:
It’s everything you ever dreamed of at a price tag you never conceived of. We’ve been there. Sadly, this might become a theme to your wedding planning. From the designer dress to the best cake in town, things are just more expensive than you thought they would be.
And while it may be time to throw in the towel and find some place more affordable, first consider a couple of options. Ask the venue manager if there is a way to make it less costly by having your wedding on an “off-day” or splitting the day with another couple. Sometimes venues do half-day bookings or offer discounts on certain days of the week which never fill up. You could also inquire if partial rentals are available. For example, if your venue is a hotel ballroom, ask if something smaller within the same venue would be possible. Don’t be embarrassed about this – they get asked these same questions every day. The more honest and upfront you are, the more helpful they can be. Even if the answer is no.
If you are having a problem with family:
You’ve always wanted a beach wedding, but your mother insists on a church. Family issues and concerns are one of the most common stress points in wedding planning. And just like finances, these issues will keep coming up again and again (and again and again).
Start by putting your emotions in perspective. Save yourself a ton of grief and never utter the words, “But it is my day.” Because that isn’t really true. Sure you’re the bride. And you get to make a lot of decisions. But this day belongs to a lot of people on both sides of the aisle. So if his mom or your dad expresses something they want to see on your wedding day, look for ways to compromise before shutting them down.
For the example above, why don’t you suggest a church wedding and a beach reception? Or if church just ins’t your gig, ask your mom for other things that would make her happy. Maybe you can still have your beach wedding but get married by her pastor. Just like with venue managers, the more upfront and transparent you are (in the kindest way possible) the easier things will be to resolve.
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