FAQ
Like everything else in life, getting married (and attending a wedding) brings up more questions than answers. We try to answer what we can, though.
Why Boston?
Why not Boston? With family on four continents now, wherever we picked would pose transportation challenges. With that in mind, we just went for what felt right and was most practical. Boston is our home now, we're putting down roots here. What better excuse, then, to unite all our closest and dearest family and friends in the place we call home?
This is also why we chose the date we did: if we're going to be showing off Boston, we thought showing her off at her best was only natural-- and few sights can match a New England Autumn for simple beauty.
To top everything off, we are proud to be married in a state that recognizes marriage for all people, not just heterosexual ones.
What's the date again?
Oct 17, 2009. Write it down next time.
What should I expect? What should I wear?
The ceremony and reception will both be indoors, at the lovely College Club of Boston. We'll be serving afternoon high tea, complete with little sandwiches and scones. As such, little wrist gloves and very fancy hats are not only appropriate, but are highly encouraged. However, if you're feeling a bit less fanciful, a tie-jacket combo or a nice dress are perfectly acceptable, as are sherwanis, kilts, or kimonos.
Do I need to RSVP?
Yes, please! If you do not RSVP, and we cannot get in touch with you, we will assume you will not be joining us-- which means no food and no place to sit. Please take the 30 seconds to RSVP.
Can we bring extra guests that were not named on the invitation?
We are so excited to have all of you come and show your love and support on such a very important day! Due to space constraints, however, we ask that only those invited attend so we can seat everyone comfortably-- really. It's a small venue, and they only have so many chairs.
Don't worry though, we'll bring the party to you soon enough!
How about that election, huh?
Hell, yes.
Will you be changing your name?
No, neither of us will be changing our names. We're both proud and rather attached to the ones we have and their respective histories.
And we refuse to curse any children with a hyphenate.
You guys aren't registering for a KitchenAid mixer?
Nope. We have one. She's red, her name is Lucy, and she's a hellcat.
What about dancing? Any dancing?
Well, we certainly won't discourage it! It's not formally planned, but you never know, maybe a few of you want to boogie off your scones!
There will definitely be music though, a viola/piano ensemble, and best believe they will throw down!
Shall I bring a camera?
You're welcome to, but we've had the excellent fortune of having fantastic photographers attend; our digital image collections will be shared with all of you on flickr (check back for details) to reduce carbon footprints further. There will certainly be no lack of pictures!
A special surprise awaits, however, so make sure you have your hats cocked and your silly faces ready!
Where's the honeymoon off to?
The last thing we want to do after the wedding is leave you all in the dust of adventure. No, you'll be with us, and we have much in store for all of you, before and after the day. We certainly shan't be taking off immediately.
However, we do find ourselves drawn strongly towards Japan. Its strictness is offset by whimsy, for all its digital efficiency it deeply respects older and wiser generations, and it has instilled such harmonious creativity and solemn virtue in its people.
Also, those love hotels are just too much fun. Mini neon go-kart tracks? Tarzan and Jane costumes? A boxing ring?! A classroom?! Come on. This HAS to be seen.
We love smoky noodle carts and fishmongers. Temples, and suits under neon lights. And Nintendo and teahouses and silence.
We don't want a trip or a visit so much as a stay, applying ourselves to something as much as enjoying being married and elsewhere. Between all we've seen and heard, there's something special waiting for us.
