While we had known of one another through a common friend at church for several years, it wasn't until we bumped into one another at the bagel table at a work event that we met for the first time. She was tall, stunningly beautiful and had a smile that lit up the room. I was impressed.
A friend from work encouraged me to follow-up on the encounter so I shot Deb an email and we got together for our first date. We went to a restaurant and hit it right off. We talked and talked until the restaurant closed. We had so much in common -- I knew there was something very special between us.
Of course, one challenge was that she lived in the Bay Area and I lived in Los Angeles (though I was staffed on a project near San Jose). But we made it work and continued getting to know one another. With my Southwest Companion Pass she was able to fly for free with me anytime I was on a flight. We took advantage of that and visited quite a few cool places (as you'll see in the Photo Gallery).
My feelings for Deb continued to deepen and I soon found myself completely enamored by her grace, strength of character, playful spirit and tender heart. About eight months after our first encounter, I proposed marriage at the top of Haleakala, on the island of Maui, at Sunrise. I feel so blessed to have Debra in my life and my heart leaps for joy when I think about how we will be together forever.
My adorable little nephews between the ages of 3 and 8 have been quite vocal over the last few years concerning who should be their new uncle. They all loved Blair from the moment they met him, and have been cheering for him. Luckily this time their vote for their new uncle is also in line with my choice!
One of them asked me this morning how Blair and I met. When I told him that we met at work, he had a perplexed look on his face and asked if we just simply said hello to each other. I told him that Blair and I both said hello to each other and had big smiles on our faces. Then Blair called me later and asked me if I wanted to go out on a date with him. I said yes, so we went out to dinner. At dinner I felt very comfortable with Blair and had fun as we talked and talked for so long until the restaurant was closing. The more we talked we realized how much alike we were. We kept going out on dates, we fell in love, and now we’re getting married. So that’s the simplified 5 year old version of our story.
For the more mature audiences:
Although our paths could have crossed years ago while both getting our undergraduate degrees, it is wonderful how things have worked out with the most perfect timing. I took on an additional interim project at work with excitement for the career development it would provide. Little did I know what “bonus” was in store for me. As one of the big events was about to take place, I realized that Blair’s name was on the list of attendees. I had heard only very positive things about Blair years ago from a friend, and a little part of me was excited by the idea of finally getting to meet this guy. Up to this point I had no idea what he even looked like, but much to my delight he ended up being the tall, dark, and handsome guy! We had a two minute chat at the bagel table, and then both went on our way to do our parts for the work event. I was very impressed by my first interactions and impressions of Blair. He was handsome, tall, classy, personable, professional, and seemed to really have it together. He seemed to have a very pleasant personality. Admittedly, during the presentations I would try to catch a glance of him. That was the last I saw of Blair that week. I was definitely impressed, but due to us living in different parts of the state I knew it wouldn’t go anywhere unless he was willing to pursue me and put in a lot of effort to make it happen.
About a week later I was off on my way with friends to travel to Spain, Portugal, and Morocco. My friend helped me to really disconnect from work by challenging me to leave my Blackberry and cell phone at home. We would all occasionally stop at little internet cafés while on this amazing adventure, but it was only to check our personal e-mail. One day I noticed I had a message from Blair. I opened it up and read it while in a basement internet café in Madrid. I had a huge grin on my face and was excited to have heard from him. I thought through my response for most of the trip back home, and I wrote him back as soon as I returned.
Conversation has been comfortable with Blair from the very first moment we met, to the emails we exchanged, and even to our first phone conversation prior to our first date. Then the day of our first date arrived. I had quite a few stressful things going on that week, but I really just wanted to be able to be myself around him. From the moment he greeted me at the restaurant I was put at ease and the conversation flowed… and flowed… and flowed, until the restaurant was obviously closing! Time went by so quickly, and I found myself even more excited about Blair. With each topic of conversation we found that we were very much alike.
Later that night as I reviewed the events of the evening in my mind, I absolutely marked this in my book as the best first date ever. I had never before felt on a first date so comfortable, so much myself, and so much on the same page with so many similarities. As we continued to date and spend time with each other throughout the following months, our friendship deepened and our love blossomed. I enjoyed learning more about Blair with each conversation and shared experience. He has so many amazing qualities that I admire and appreciate. He is ambitious yet kind. He is smart and handsome, yet humble. He is a very good man who wants to do what is right. Blair has his priorities in order. We motivate each other to want to be the best we can be. I enjoy his contagious smile and positive attitude. He is a very wise and wonderful man.
I have a smile in my heart when I’m around Blair. We truly enjoy each other’s company. We are like two peas in a pod, and I love it! Just as our love and friendship has continued to deepen and grow with this time of our courtship, I am full of joy in knowing we will have the rest of our lives and all eternity together to continually deepen and grow our love and friendship. I love Blair, and am so excited to be getting married to him. The journey of life is going to be wonderful with him. My heart is full of joy and gratitude that my “Prince Charming” has found me!