Sometimes your bridesmaids are the most helpful and awesome people on the planet, and sometimes a little less so. Here are the 3 most common bridesmaid-related etiquette issues and ways that you can work to resolve them.
Your bridesmaids are M.I.A.
You need help with something and a bridesmaid is nowhere to be found? First make sure you have managed your expectations. Your bridesmaids may not be able to come to every planning errand, especially if they live far away. But if you can’t even get them to shop for their own dress, you may have a problem. Before you talk with them, make sure that this is a trend and not just a moment. Don’t jump…
Now that you have invited your bestest friends and relatives to be in your wedding, you are probably wondering what exactly a bridesmaid does. Here is a list of their responsibilities (and yours):
The dress and accessories are their expense. But play nice and consider the cost when picking these things out. Rarely (no matter what you think to the contrary) do gals end up wearing these dresses again. And you can always help with this adding up too much by giving them part of the ensemble as their gift.
Travel costs also come out of their pocket. If you are traveling anywhere unexpected, make sure to give them a heads up about it when you invite…
Having a group of bridesmaids that you love is one of the best parts of a wedding. The fun parties, the girl-time bonding, the great stories–all a good time. But sometimes the process of selecting and inviting your bridesmaids feels more stressful than you had thought. Here are some helpful tips to common concerns with picking your bridal party:
Wait for the right time. Especially if you are planning a long engagement, don’t invite your bridesmaids right away (unless of course, they are family). There is no rule that this has to be done right away. Although it is hard to believe your college friendships will ever change or fade away, it happens. Don’t put yourself in the awkward position…
This is a simple and sweet way to ask your best friends to be maids at your wedding! Dig up old photos with funny stories or memories to make it extra special! Total Cost: Around $3
Postcards with envelopes in bright colors
Stick-on photo corners
1. Find an old photo and cut to size if needed.
2. Attach photo corner and place on postcard.
3. Write a note in white pen and add a caption for your photo.
You might want to practice your lettering a few times before writing out your note. Stick on photo corners can easily be moved around so play around with different layouts.
No time? Buy it:
We recommend Bird and Banner for charming invitations like this.
At this year’s New York International Bridal Week, one of the trends we saw was a move toward more versatility with dress design – reversible, removable straps, etc. Well, clearly Katie of Coralie Beatrix would be ahead of the trendsetting with her easy, effortless, and adaptable pieces that she’s been making since 2010.
Inspired by her love of the casual, easygoing lifestyle of living by the sea, Katie has created an entire collection of bridesmaid (as well as bridal) pieces that can be styled and wrapped into a customized look that is as personal as the woman wearing the dress. Beautiful!
be-nign, adj. – 1.Of a kind and gentle disposition. And, how! I mean, what could be more genteel than these uniquely lovely wedding invitation handerchiefs by Rachel Wiles of Benign Objects? (Who also just got married this past October! Congratulations, Rachel!)
These custom screenprinted, vintage-style handkerchiefs can serve as wedding invitations (as seen above) or Save the Dates, or for a “Be My Bridesmaid” request, or any other occasion for that matter. In any case, they’ll have people crying tears of joy when they receive them. And, hey, at least they’ll be prepared when that moment strikes.
You can also purchase reply cards and decorative ‘belly bands’ to accompany the handkerchiefs.
What bridesmaid-to-be would say no to this kind of request?
And, what would help carry out the design theme better than custom personalized muslin bags? Great for favors, flower petals, confetti, and more.
The Dessy Group
Let’s face it, picking out the bridesmaid dresses can be some pretty treacherous territory. (Honestly, my sister should have thought to ask for assistance when she got married. Not good. Poor girls.) And, you give one quick Google search for bad bridesmaid dresses? Well, let’s hope that history doesn’t repeat itself.
Fortunately, there are plenty of beautiful options around to avoid severing any friendships or family ties. So as we head into the weekend, here’s a small sampling of some lovely offerings that may help you in dreaming up your perfect bridesmaid look while avoiding any nightmarish moments.
Ivy & Aster
I’m not going to lie to you, I love myself a girly ruffle. And it seems to me that there is no better time for pulling out the pretty than right around your wedding. Whether you’re adding a ruffled necklace to your shower outfit, decking your bridesmaids out in these killer peony dresses from Quail Bridal or adding a ruffle-y heel to your wedding dress, it’s a feminine way to let the world know here comes the bride.
Peony bridesmaid dress: Quail Bridal
Ruffle necklace (with DIY instructions!): Ruffles and Stuff
Cake stand: Vessels and Wares
Unicorn heel shoes: ModCloth
Ruffle purse: Piper Lime
Heels with ruffle ankle strap: Coclico
Ruffle bra: Anthropologie
Dessy just released their Spring collection of bridesmaid dresses and I had to share right away because there are some lookers in the bunch. Now if you don’t know about Dessy, let me quickly explain. A totally innovative idea, they let you to pick out the style of dress you like and then see it in a variety of colors, all of which are Pantone-matched (remember this little guy?) so you can match your bridesmaid dresses exactly to your cake to your linens. They also have matching grooms’ attire, flower girl dresses, and accessories so you can be as matchy-matchy as your heart desires.
Their website is absolutely fantastic, as well. You can lose hours checking out your fave dresses in…
When I was little girl I could spend hours trying on my grandma’s costume jewelry, playing dress-up. Now, I know not every girl can lose herself in the baubles (my sister was more of a He-Man/ Skeletor gal) but for those that like the sparkle, these suitcases from Pink Loves Brown filled with inexpensive jewelry would be the perfect flower girl gift. Or if you’re providing her flower girl dress wouldn’t this be a great way to present it? She would have a special carrying case that tells the world she has a very important job.
For your bridesmaids whose tastes may run a bit finer than what Claire’s has to offer, she also has