My husband and his son are not currently speaking.  My son is getting married, and he and his stepbrother aren’t close.  Do we still invite him to the wedding?  I don’t want to be rude by excluding him, but I also don’t want my husband to be hurt if his son attends, but ignores him.—Mollie, Tallahassee, FL

It is good that you are concerned with both sides.  Family is complicated and often there are no easy answers when it comes to difficult relationships and weddings.  I don’t think it would be wise to have the first face-to-face between your husband and his son be at the wedding.  Perhaps, you could invite his son over first and express desire for him to be at the wedding as a first step towards rebuilding a relationship.  If, however, there is no desire to repair or speak to each other, skip inviting him.  This is your son’s wedding and it shouldn’t be overshadowed with unnecessary drama.  Ultimately, let this be your husband’s decision.  If he wants his son at the wedding, make steps towards that.  If he doesn’t, let him be the one to explain that decision later.