Since I think just about every human on Earth should be in therapy, it's not surprising that I'm also a big proponent for premarital counseling. It's a great way to affirm and explore whether or not you and your fiancé are on the same page about major life issues. Many couples fear that undergoing counseling will open a giant can of worms, but people: that's the point! This is great practice! If you flip your perception, you could actually look forward to tackling some of these issues with your partner. In my humble opinion, premarital counseling is not a venue to "fix" all of your problems before you get hitched. I think of it as a place to open the dialogue between you and future spouse. It's also a chance to get a head's up on lingering issues you as a couple need to work on. In case you haven't heard, there is no "perfect" relationship, but there are relationships that allow for the balance between individual expression and mutual partnership.
According to a recent article by the American Association for Marriage and Family Counseling, "Most couples rate premarital counseling as very helpful, and it also establishes in their relationship a positive attitude about seeking help if marriage problems arise in the future." So there ya go--even the experts say you'll get good results.
Speaking of results... it seems that myweding.com users agree:
Survey Says:
According to the official mywedding.com premarital counseling survey:
- 52% of our users are excited to jump right in with a counselor before getting hitched.
- 23% are considering it.
- 22% say they have no use for premarital counseling.
Hooray! I'm not alone in my enthusiasm for self reflection. Yay for therapy! Alright, I'm sort of kidding. But remember happy couples are contagious. I'm just sayin'.
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