Wedding Blog

Two people finding each other, falling in love and deciding to spend the rest of their lives together is really rather extraordinary. Deciding to celebrate this commitment with a wedding is both exciting and somewhat stressful. While many brides dream of their wedding day and spend months planning the perfect event, when it comes down to the day of the event both members of the couple are often overwhelmed by all the excitement. I've heard more than one couple report that they were glad they were given written copies of the ceremony as they couldn't recall a word I, as the officiant, said. Others expressed the same grateful expression over having the video of the ceremony and the rest of the event.

It is possible to have a relaxed, enjoyable experience. You can actually be present and focused for your ceremony and for the rest of the celebration. Here are some tips:

• Keep it simple. Do not plan anything that feels larger and more grandiose than either of you are comfortable with. This seems obvious but the rule is seldom followed. It really isn't necessary to invite so many people if you won't recall whether or not they attended, or if you don’t have a moment to chat with those who did.
• Hire a coordinator. Having someone else take care of the details takes a huge burden off of you. The coordinator will be the one person that holds it all together.
• Go with your gut. Choose an officiant that you feel really comfortable with and has experience. But make sure you know what they will say. Plan the ceremony with them or ask to see the ceremony before the event.
• Rehearse! Work with your officiant and coordinator to choreograph the ceremony. Know all the cues. Make sure everyone who needs to know the logistics, e.g. musicians, attendants, ushers, officiant and you, all have the same information and that any last minute changes go to all involved.
• Learn to breathe. Any time you feel overly excited just stop, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. If the two of you are together, hold hands and look into each other's eyes while you breathe.
• Take a Moment. At the end of the ceremony after you recess, it is okay to take ten minutes alone. There is really no rush to take photographs, stand in a receiving line or do anything else. You just got married. Take ten minutes to let it sink in.

I Do adapts traditions and creates new options to help couples personalize their wedding ceremonies. by Sydney Barbara Metrick Buy The Book www.ChickenSoupCounseling.com