Last week we began the journey into the realm of Mother-in-laws and how to build a real relationship with them. Our first mistake was forgetting to call them regularly and we covered how to mend this and improve our calling habits. Remember that these tips, though seemingly small and simple, will help to improve your standing with your MIL as well as begin a friendship between the two of you.
Mistake #2: Forget to Ask Your Mother-In-Law How She’s Feeling Frequently
I know that asking someone how they are feeling seems a little cliché, but remembering to ask your mother-in-law how she is feeling can make a huge difference in your relationship. Paying attention to her is the key. In order to create a friendship with her, it is vital you show you do care for her and that she knows it!
Solution: Take the time to stop and listen to how she is feeling.
Notice what she says and remember to ask about it later on the next time you see each other. For example, if she complains about how much her back has been bothering her, remember to ask about it at your next meeting and try to be extra helpful around the house. Keep in mind that it’s not easy getting older and aches and pains can make even the best of us ornery. One thing you might want to consider is offering to accompany your MIL on doctor visits whenever possible. Not every mother-in-law will respond the same but you could be surprised by how much she appreciates you taking the time out of your busy schedule to go with her. Don’t take it personally if she would rather go alone though. Remember, the fact that you are showing her that you care and are trying to be there for her is what really matters.
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