When Caroline called her best friend, Denise to invite her to be maid of honor at her wedding, she had no idea Denise would have a request of her own. Her boyfriend had just "popped the question" that day and she was considering what to do for her own wedding. Caroline and Denise had been talking about weddings for months and now they would both be planning weddings. Why not share the planning and share the wedding?
Denise pointed out that they had the same group of friends (mostly), loved the same foods, music and most everything else. And, the fiancées knew and liked each other. With just the tiniest amount of coercing, Caroline was convinced. They had no trouble deciding on a date, a location, and all the vendors, but when it came time to plan the ceremony, they were suddenly at a loss.
They decided to forgo attendants. Each couple would enter together from opposite sides of the room. They'd each stand to one side of the officiant (me). I did a fairly standard ceremony with just a few additions. One was to talk about Caroline and Denise's friendship and the importance to them of the double ceremony. Both couples had shared what marriage meant to them, and I included their words as part of the ceremony. And finally, we had two sets of vows to top off the ceremony.
It was a lovely and unique event to witness.
I can't wait to hear about the anniversaries!
I Do adapts traditions and creates new options to help couples personalize their wedding ceremonies. by Sydney Barbara Metrick Buy The Book www.ChickenSoupCounseling.com
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