Our Story
The journey of a thousand miles they say starts with a step. Please join us as we take you through the journey of our lives so far.
Bride's Story
How We Met
I’m Tope Adeyemi, though some of you know me as Doja. I’m in my mid twenties, a graduate of English Education of Obafemi Awolowo University, the school that brought us together. Rather than say destiny brought us together, I say God made our paths cross.
‘Laanu finished from Electrical & Electronics Engineering Department of the same school as mine. We’ve always known each other right from my freshman days though it was more of a very casual relationship then. We both attended the same Christian Fellowship on campus, hmm… I heard someone say (brother –sister fellowship thing) well, we never got into any relationship other than being members of the same fellowship while he was on campus, he graduated in 2001, that was the year I gained admission , so I bet you would know nothing happened while he was still a student.
Somehow, he came around into the school sometimes in June 2005; he got my mobile number and called me. I was surprised to receive his call because I knew he hadn’t been around for years. And that was the turning point, I saw in Laanu a focused, intelligent gentle man. He is above all God-fearing. A very charming individual, no wonder people say; “Tope, you are lucky to have a man like Laanu”
Well, the conclusion of the matter is that God has a way of connecting people, God chose him for me and me for him, he made us compactible, we flow together, and we see in each other a great future together.
Laanu is a cool guy, easy going and tender hearted. I’m glad I said “yes” to the man of my dreams!
Groom's Story
How We Met
I’m sure there are some things you couldn’t predict nor say will happen until they do. “He makes all things beautiful in its time……”
A couple of years ago, I decided to pay a visit to my former Uni to honour a friend’s request. We had a great time and it was very nice to visit the campus where a lot happened, not all very pleasant. On my final day of my visit as I was on my way out, I met a very good friend of mine, who asked if I’d seen Tope to which I replied No. He then asked if I’ve got her telephone no, to which I also gave the same response, he then offered to give me her no. I later called her, tope and chatted with her for some few minutes, of course she had no clue of who was calling and even thought it was someone else until I told her who was calling. I then paid her a visit in company of my host. We met and exchanged some pleasantries with other friends who hadn’t seen me in a long time, we even took some photos and I left.
What Next?
For some reasons I called her again after a few weeks and we seemed to connect well. So our friendship began, then the calls became regular and more regular and from few minutes call each time, it became hours. (Don’t ask me how much my phone bill was, as the calls were international calls) It was really difficult to stop talking, we just kept talking, sometimes, her mum asked her what she talked about with a stranger for so long.
The Proposal
Many things a man is bold enough to do....hmm this isn't one of them.
After she graduated from the Uni, we had more time to talk without interfering with her studies and this made me to understand and to get to know her more. I soon found out that we had a lot in common and had a lot to offer in future. I therefore began to ask the necessary questions and the responses I got further confirmed I was on the right website, no need to log off. I chose one of our talking days to carry out the Coup de tat. I just asked her to remind me that I’d like to discuss something with her at the end of our normal discussions. She promptly did, not suspecting a thing. I started off with praising her and mentioning her qualities such as her maturity, tender heart, hardworking, understanding, and loving, etc; then I popped out the magic word and the line went dead or so I thought. I started asking…” Are you here? Hello, Hello, Hellooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!....” I kept asking oh maybe it was a faux pas, perhaps I’d blown it, then I heard a faint response at the other end of the line. She suggested we end our talk for the night. I had no choice but to agree.
Her Response
I thought I would receive her response in a matter of weeks, little did I know that I had a long wait coming, but one good thing was that our friendship was growing stronger and stronger which gave me some hope. After a couple of months the response came around midnight of a particular special day. She did something similar to mine informing me that she would like to discuss something with me after our discussion that night. But in this matter, I already had the upper hand, since her elder brother unknowingly had “let the cat out of the bag” earlier in the day by congratulating me for the victory achieved, though he didn’t give any details but I kind of knew what he was talking about. Anyway, after our discussion that night she gave me what I’ve been waiting for; A fantastic and reassuring “YES”. That response would determine the destinies of generations to come.
Afterwards
It's good to reap the benefits of an Investment.
Our relationship has been growing and growing over the years and with God, parents and friends’ approval, the journey has been very exciting. Now we want to begin another journey into our relationship, a deeper one, so we can fulfil the goal of marriage, ONENESS. Being one in thought, purpose, direction, vision, aims, etc, it can take a life time to achieve that, no wonder a very good mentor once said, that after forty years of marriage he was still pursuing Oneness. We hope to embark on that race very soon. How good have you performed in that Goal of Oneness in marriage?
