Dos & Dont's

Melissa Valdez on Jul 14, 2008 01:00 AM

Here is a fun do and don't list that I found that I hope is helpful!

DO’S and DON’TS

• DO RSVP BY THE DEADLINE, even if you already told the bride & groom that you’d definitely be there.
• DON’T CALL THE BRIDE the day of the wedding for any reason.
• DO STAY UPBEAT when you talk to the bride during the months before the big day. She wants to hear that you’re excited, not that you have to rearrange your work schedule or can’t afford a hotel.
• DON’T WEAR WHITE OR CREAM. Enough said.
• DO BOOK YOUR HOTEL AND AIRFARE EARLY. Many couples include logistical details (like where to stay) on their websites, along with the name of whom to contact with questions – if not the couple, then a parent or a member of the bridal party.
• DON’T BRING A GIFT TO THE WEDDING – it might get lost or damaged. The couple will have enough to lug home already.
• DO MAKE A POINT OF GREETING THE BRIDE AND GROOM. They’ll have people around them all night, so it’s okay to wait – not hover – nearby. (Put down your drink before going for the big hug.)
• DON’T SHOW UP LATE to the ceremony or reception, as weddings tend to run on an invisible – but tight – time line.
• DO HELP GET THE PARTY STARTED. That means being one of the first people to hit the dance floor.
• DON’T CHANGE YOUR TABLE AT THE RECEPTION: You risk upsetting the seating plan’s delicate balance.
• DO LET THE DJ DO HIS JOB, which means not bugging him with requests – the couple have probably labored over the playlist and have a specific idea about the music they want.
• DON’T TAKE THE CENTERPIECES HOME unless you’re told you can. They might be earmarked for charity – or the bride and groom’s relatives.
• DO SEND ANY PHOTOS you take to the couple ASAP – they’ll be grateful to have some shots to show around.
• DO FOLLOW UP WITH THE NEWLYWEDS if you’ve sent a gift but haven’t received a thank-you note within three months.

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