Bridesmaids’ Luncheon

More eating and drinking with the girls? Yes please! This time, the bride (or her mom) is the one throwing the bash for her bridesmaids – rather than the other way around. Before she becomes a ‘Mrs’, she’ll organize a get-together for her bridal party to thank them for their involvement in the wedding.

Here’s some info about the general etiquette of bridesmaids’ luncheons:

  1. This gathering is the perfect opportunity for the bride to spend quality time with her nearest and dearest as, realistically, she doesn’t get to spend much time with them on the wedding day (depending on the size of the occasion, of course).

  2. Traditionally, there would be a bridesmaids’ cake that had a coin or ring baked into it. The bridesmaid to find it would be the next to marry or be lucky in love. A more delicious bouquet toss, if you will.

  3. It usually takes place a day or two before the wedding, which allows any out-of-town bridesmaids traveling to the wedding to make it in one trip. 

  4. Although it’s called a “bridesmaids’ luncheon”, other females close to the bride (her mom, future mother-in-law, sisters, cousins, aunts, as well as the flower girls) are usually invited too. And as for the “luncheon” part… well, you can have breakfast, brunch, afternoon tea, dinner or simply just cocktails if you’d rather.

  5. Unlike showers, bridesmaids’ luncheons don’t usually involve planned games and activities. They are just a group of close friends and relatives appreciating one another’s company. To thank her bridesmaids, the bride can either make a speech or toast, or go round to each person individually to offer her gratitude. She often presents her bridesmaids with a gift here. If she decides against this type of affair, however, the gifts are usually given at the rehearsal dinner.

  6. The ’maids may also present the bride with her something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue at this event.

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