Engagement Party

He’s popped the question, she’s accepted the sparkler and squealed, “Yes!” while jumping up and down on the spot and clapping her hands. Now what? Before getting into the furor of planning the wedding, why not mark the occasion with an engagement party so friends and family can raise a glass to the happy couple?

Follow this advice to ensure your shindig goes without a hitch before you, er, get hitched!

  1. Don’t invite anyone to the engagement party who you don’t intend to invite to the wedding. Awkward!
  2. Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party, but there are no strict rules – it can be hosted by the couple themselves, a friend or family member.
  3. But don’t ask the best man or matron/maid of honor to host the engagement party as they will have other parties to host – namely the bachelor and bachelorette parties.
  4. Guests aren’t expected to bring gifts but, if they do, it’s polite to open them after the party. Make sure you send a thank-you note.
  5. The bride’s dad is usually the first to invite guests to raise their glass in honor of the deliriously happy duo.
  6. The groom-to-be says a few words, then offers a toast to honor his bride-to-be and her family. Other guests can then propose toasts to the couple and their parents.
  7. The style and size of the party depends on your budget and what you prefer. It can be a formal affair with printed invitations and reply cards, a casual backyard barbecue, or anything in-between.
  8. For those couples choosing a long engagement, engagement parties are held one to three months after the engagement or about a year before the wedding. For others, it’s usually held any time more than six months before the wedding.

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