Muslim weddings in my area normally have three days of delightful celebrations on both the bride and groom sides. The celebration begins one day prior to the wedding day. Close relatives, friends and neighbors gather on both houses and have various arts and cultural programs ending with dinner followed by Music. In bride's side this day is popularly known as Mehendi (Henna).
On the Wedding day many custom rituals takes place preceding and succeeding the marriage or Nikkah (النكاح). Mahr (مهر) is a gift, mandatory in Islam, which is given by the groom to the bride upon marriage.
The main events details of our Wedding are given below,
Friday, January 30, 2009
Mehendi ceremony is the starting event of wedding at Jesni's home. It is mainly a ladies function where female friends, family members and relatives of the bride come together to apply turmeric paste to the bride to bring out the glow in her complexion. A mehndiwali or a relative applies mehndi on the hands and feet of the bride. By evening it becomes a general party after the arrival of other guests like close relatives, neighbors and friends.
Friday, January 30, 2009 | Evening
The events start on 30th January Friday After noon with various programs on Shameem's house. The main participants would be close relatives, friends and neighbors.
By evening the participants starts arriving and Father and Shameem receives the guests and make them seat comfortably. Welcome drinks will be provided. There will be a stage setup at one corner which will host the night art & cultural programs.
Saturday, January 31, 2009 | 1 Pm
The main wedding ceremony is called Nikaah in Muslim religion. The wedding ceremony is normally conducted at the bride's place or at any common venue.
After feast at Shameem's house (starting at 11 am) there will be transportation arranged to the Nikaah venue.
A Maulvi or priest in the presence of close family members, friends and relatives, conducts the wedding rituals. The 'Walis' Prof. Saidalavi (father of Jesni) play a vital role in the wedding ceremony. The Maulvi reads selected verses from the Quran and the Nikaah is complete after the Ijab-e-Qubul (proposal and acceptance). The groom's side proposes and the bride's side conveys her consent. The mutual consent of the bride and groom is of very importance for the marriage to be legal. The Mehar is a compulsory amount of money given by the groom's family to the bride on the day of the wedding. The Nikaahnaama is a document in which the marriage contract is registered. The contract is legal only when Shameem, Jesni and Walis (Jesni's Father) and the Maulvi duly sign it.
After the wedding ceremony is over Shameem and Jesni receives blessings from the elders and older women of the family and the guests pray for their happy married life.
After Nikaah Shameem takes Jesni to his home where mother-in-law Suleena Shoukath welcomes Jesni along with Shameem's sister Shaheena and other relatives.
Sunday, February 01, 2009
It is the reception given by the groom's family. The Valimah is a grand reception hosted by the groom's family after the Nikaah. It is a fun and joyous occasion that brings together the two families. It is the good time to meet the friends and relatives of both the families. It builds a new bond and relation between the two families.
Feast will be arranged at home.