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5 Engagement Ring Rules That Have Gone Away for Good

When it comes to engagement ring shopping in 2018, old-fashioned ideas and standards don't necessarily hold true anymore. Read on for a few ideas to keep in mind when shopping for your perfect ring. Spoiler alert: Bending the rules is encouraged.

The Evolution of Etiquette


Weddings are rooted in tradition. Some, like declaring your love in front of friends and family, are timeless. Others, such as the ones surrounding engagement rings, are no longer set in stone. Of course, there's no right or wrong way to get engaged—it all depends on what's important to you as a couple—but the etiquette has evolved to allow for a bit more freedom. Here are the top five rules you can bend or even break.

Rule #1: Your partner should spend two or three months' salary on the ring.
High quality doesn't have to come at a high price. Spend as much or as little as you want on the ring—it's not about spending the most but rather gaining the best value. In today's market, with savvy new online designers like Oscar Winter, it's possible to get the same luxury craftsmanship as brick-and-mortar brands. The experts at Oscar Winter make it possible for couples to design the engagement ring or select the wedding band of their dreams no matter your budget. Oscar Winter offers an exceptional experience from the ring design process to the delivery of your custom creation, giving you an unparalleled adventure as you begin your lifetime of happiness.

Rule #2: Women shouldn't be involved in picking out the ring.
You absolutely can have a say in your engagement ring—you're the one who will be wearing it, after all. While it's totally understandable to want to be surprised, there's nothing wrong with making sure your unique style is reflected in that rock on your finger. Drop some subtle hints, or even design your ring on and conveniently leave the tab open. Or, simply be open about what you want and team up to create a custom piece. The key is communication—and that's a pretty perfect way to begin a marriage.

The "Rules of Engagement" Are No More


Rule #3: An engagement ring is required for the proposal.
When comedian and talk show host Chris Hardwick got down on one knee to propose to model and heiress Lydia Hearst, he gave her a candy ring (seriously!). Of course, it was later replaced with her grandmother's antique diamond. This might be the best way to be have a say without ruining the romance: Plenty of guys are popping the question with a placeholder or an empty box and then choosing the real deal with their brides after they've said "yes." With online retailers that offer a luxury experience, you can count on getting a top-quality piece of custom jewelry. Oscar Winter even offers a 30 day return/exchange policy on any purchase to ensure that it arrives exactly how you imagined it.

Don't have a family heirloom like Hearst? Create a custom ring you'll want to pass down at Oscar Winter.

Rule #4: Engagement rings are just for women.
Historically, only brides-to-be wore sparklers to signal their status. But who says guys can't rock engagement bands, too? If you're not sold on the idea of your man donning a stylish engagement band, we highly recommend browsing Oscar Winter's selection of wedding bands for him. No matter your taste, there's certainly something you can select that will be perfect for your husband-to-be.

Rule #5: Only choose "flawless" diamonds.
It's easy to get sidetracked by all that sparkle and shine, but don't spend too much time looking for a perfect diamond. The reality is, you're going to have to balance color, cut, clarity and carat weight to get the most out of your budget, whatever it may be.

The experts at Oscar Winter suggest prioritizing high cut grades so your diamond really sparkles. "The most desired diamonds are those that have fire, brightness and scintillation - all visual effects created by the quality of the cutting. If you're considering a round brilliant diamond for the keystone in your engagement ring, consider an Oscar Winter diamond certified by GIA as having an Excellent cut grade."