As a non-denominational officiant, it is my heart's desire to bless your wedding with the essence of your individuality, personality and commitment. I am here to truly listen to who you are, create a fun bond between the three of us, and write a ceremony that reflects you both, as well as moving those witnessing your marriage to deepen their commitment and appreciation of their own relationships. So much emphasis is placed on pre-wedding parties and the reception, that often the most meaningful aspect of the day is not given much thought. That is where I come in; to give you lots of options of readings, poems, extra meaningful ceremony details... so you can relax and enjoy the sacred union and vows at the core of marriage...the wedding ceremony itself.
I am so lucky to live in Santa Barbara, with access to hundreds of absolutely spectacular wedding venues, from the beach, to private estates, luxury resorts and wineries. I will help you custom tailor your wedding to whatever lovely setting you choose.
Please check out my blog at www.idosantabarbara.blogspot to see what the couples have to say that have enjoyed this journey with me! They are so special to me.
I am also a certified Prepare-Enrich premarital counselor. This is not required, but statistics show far greater marriage success with couples who have undergone premarital counseling. This program is a fun, relaxed online inventory, whereafter we meet for 3 follow up sessions to discuss your relationship strengths and any areas of growth, as well as tools to facilitate communication and conflict resolution.
I also perform meaningful marriage renewal ceremonies, baby blessings and celebration of life memorials.
" Barbra was an absolute joy to work with. From our very first meeting, it was clear that Barbra was intent on getting to know my husband & me on a very personal level in order to make our ceremony as authentically "us" as possible. She created a beautiful, emotional and moving ceremony that suited our family just perfectly. We wanted my husband's two children to serve an integral role in the ceremony, as it was extremely important the day signified all of us becoming a family. Barbra worked with us to find the perfect reading for the children to participate in and helped us to devise a beautiful "family tree" ceremony. Her pre-wedding questionnaire was extremely thought-provoking and helped us both write our own personal vows to each other. She helped us keep our non-religious ceremony short and sweet, but full of rich words, love and strong, spiritual content. Barbra took all the stress and worry out of planning our ceremony and helped us to channel our focus in the right places. We are forever grateful to Barbra for her contribution in making our wedding day the most lovely & joyous occasion filled with memories that will make us smile for all the years ahead!
Warmly,Kasey & Lauren
"Barbra recently officiated our wedding and was wonderful. She was clear and concise, worked seamlessly with the photographers, and received many compliments from our guests.
Initially we had a skype session with her and really liked her easy demeanor and professionalism. We were asked to email her a bit about ourselves individually, which she ultimately worked into the ceremony, giving it a very personal touch.
We gave her a very broad vision of what we wanted the ceremony to encompass (we are not religious) and when the day came, it was spot on. She offered to let us read it before, but mentioned that it was sometimes fun and more spontaneous to let it be a surprise. We would recommend letting her surprise you."
Thank you Nic & Nate! Such a fun wedding! "We had the best weekend ever! It was so magical in every way possible. So many people came up to us afterwards and said how much they loved the ceremony... it was perfect! Everyone was amazed at how touching your speech was...you really are a celebrity among our friends now, they won't stop talking about you!! It means so much to us you were able to marry us; you will always be in our hearts. Thank you, and I'm sure our paths will cross again in beautiful Santa Barbara! Much Love, Brad " "As Brad said, we haven't stopped hearing our family and friends rave about the ceremony. So many people have told us how touched they were by it. It meant so much to Brad and me, and I can't thank you enough for making our wedding so special. I didn't think it was possible to make an experience that's shared with 150 other people so personal, but your ceremony made it feel so intimate. The entire day felt like a dream--so surreal and magical. Thank you again for making it so special for us, I know we will never forget it! All our love, Michael "" Choosing who is going to marry you is extremely stressful. My family is Jewish and my husband is Greek Orthodox, so after much debate, we made the decision not to get married in either religious venue. My mom suggested we contact our friend Barbra who is a professional and also a friend, and specializes in interfaith marriages. After our first meeting, it was clear she was the perfect person to marry us! Over the course of 9 months, she worked with us to craft the perfect ceremony that incorporated Jewish traditions such as smashing the glass, and Greek traditions such as the Stefana Crown Ceremony. Barbra combined traditional vows with fun personal stores about our lives. So many people came up to us afterwards to say how much they enjoyed the ceremony and how it truly felt like us. My top priority throughout the wedding planning process was to create a weekend that truly felt like my husband and me--I wanted everyone to come to Santa Barbara for a wonderful and fun event that truly incorporated all of our favorite things, and Barbra did just that. She is patient, kind, insightful and truly guided us through the process. I was so thrilled by the ceremony, and we are so grateful to Barbra for creating such a fantastic memory for us and our guests. I wish I could do it all over again! We couldn't begin to thank you enough for making our wedding ceremony so incredibly special and personal. As you know, it wasn't an easy process for us to agree on how we envisioned our ceremony, but you made it so perfect and captured all of our ideas and thoughts and traditions, and turned it into the most memorable day, that we will cherish and love for the rest of our lives. It was also so special to have you play such a big part, as one of our oldest and first friends in Santa Barbara. Thank you again for being such a huge part of our day! With love, Jess and Mike "
You are the best ever. Funny, serious, poignant and memorable with the guests as well as the bride and groom.
Barbra is a lovely person: gentle in spirit, deep in faith, abundant in love. She possesses a grace and connectivity to the world around her that makes her an excellent celebrant and likely a lifelong friend. ~ Rev. Farmer, Montecito Weddings
Stunning photo of you here, sistah...xox