Congratulations on your plans to join hearts, hands and lives with your beloved partner in the ceremony of marriage! I'm delighted that you found your way here and I would be deeply honored to be a part of this milestone event in your relationship.
MY PHILOSOPHY OF THE WEDDING CEREMONY
Whether you're getting married in a friend's garden with only two witnesses, or celebrating your marriage in a luxurious country club with two hundred guests in attendance; whether the ceremony is five minutes or forty-five minutes long, a wedding is a profoundly intimate and personal event. It's a sacred moment, set apart from everyday life, in which you share with others, in words and ritual, your love and your dreams, your beliefs and your values. This celebration completes one important chapter in your story and begins another.
For a moment this important, it's critical to have an officiant who understands that the ceremony is the beating heart of your whole wedding day. Regardless of the type of ceremony you desire - religious, spiritual, interfaith, secular, multicultural or an eclectic blend - the words that are said make a difference, and the WAY they are said makes a difference, too. For almost twenty years I have been crafting personal ceremony, and since my ordination in 2001 I have been helping couples find the words and the ritual that transform a wedding into their wedding, a day they revisit with sweet memories many, many years into their married life.
COLLABORATING TO CREATE YOUR PERFECT CEREMONY
I don't believe the person who guides you to the doorway you will pass through as a married couple should walk into your lives on your wedding day as a total stranger - nor should you be total strangers to her. The first step in making your magical ceremony take shape is for us to get to know one another, to make sure we're a good "fit" and that you feel completely comfortable with me. We'll meet to chat, exchange information, explore ideas about the ceremony, and to answer any questions that you have. If you live outside the Portland/Vancouver area and are planning a destination wedding here, we can conduct our meeting via telephone and/or email.
During that initial meeting, I'll provide you with samples of ceremonies I've created, poems, readings and other material to illustrate your options and inspire your imagination. Once you engage my services as your officiant, I'll work with you to combine existing material, revise it, or write entirely new pieces - whatever it takes to develop the ceremony that feels as if it belongs to you and only you.
BEING THERE FOR YOU FROM START TO FINISH
Lots of questions come up during this process. Anxieties and emotions can ambush you. There's the stress of a to-do list as long as your arm. Sometimes family drama or a sudden crisis erupts. Or sometimes you just want to have a "reality check" with someone who's a little less enmeshed in all the frenzy of planning.
I'll be there to help you the whole way, answering your questions when I can, referring you to other resources when I can't; calming your anxieties and helping you gain perspective when you need it; talking things through and offering ideas anytime you ask. Should you have a rehearsal, and do I need to be there? Let's discuss it. How can you afford everything you want for the wedding? I can help you prioritize, to discover what's truly important to you. Do you need pre-marital (or post-marital) coaching, to gain some new relationship tools and better your odds of a long, successful marriage? I'll offer you my outlook, based on intuition and long experience, but I'll never press you to commit to anything you're not ready for. Should we meet more than once during ceremony development? This collaboration is about YOUR needs, so I'll always try to be available for you by phone, email and in person - whatever works best for you.
I am authorized to perform weddings in Oregon and Washington. I welcome all couples, and I respect all wisdom traditions and belief systems that have love at their core. For more details about my approach and my services, visit the PassageWays FAQ page.
Please contact me to make an appointment for a free initial consultation. Together we'll embark on the adventure of creating a wedding ceremony that expresses the essence of your love and touches everyone involved with its meaning - especially YOU!