Having attended so many weddings in my lifetime, I've had plenty of opportunities to see what I liked about certain ceremonies, and, unfortunately, what I didn't.
While some seemed to be religious affairs that catered more to the faith of the congregation than to the special event that the service was intended for, and others seemed to be "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am-let's-get-this-over-with-and-on-to-the-party" services that left the couple thinking, "Is that all there is?"
Still, there were others that seemed to reach out and touch the hearts of not only the bride-to-be and her groom, but also the entire assembly of loved-ones and witnesses alike.
When I discovered I could become an officiant for weddings, my ideas for the perfect marriage ceremony were pretty much set in my mind.
My friends Lisa and Kris asked that I officiate their vows of matrimony, and in a surprisingly short period of time, I learned that this was one of the many things in my life that I was simply born to do.
I researched many different wedding ceremonies, and learned the many different forms that the vows of matrimony can take. Most importantly, I learned that the vows that are made between the couple on that special day can be made in ways that speak truly to the heart of the institution of togetherness, and can involve each couple's community in a dynamic of love and support that is unique, memorable, and as lasting as their love for one another.
Since Kris and Lisa, I have attended to many other weddings, and each wedding brings more. I'm delighted to have guided so many couples along that next step in their life-long relationship.
My modus operandi for every wedding is as follows:
I look forward to the opportunity to meet with the happy couple in order to determine your needs, and simply get acquainted. While a face-to-face meeting is preferable, I understand how busy your schedule is, particularly with all the plans that must be made. Therefore, we can conduct our session or sessions by e-mail or telephone.
During our meetings, I will simply ask questions.
Most importantly, I will listen to you.
What input would you like to have in the composition of the vows? You may write your own. Or would you prefer that I do so? I have many samples of the vows I have used in the past, and, I assure you, any selection that we decide upon will be unique to you!
Would you like for me to include a portion of the ceremony that is unique to your passions and hobbies?
Do you want a secular or non-secular wedding?
Will this be a civil ceremony?
Is there family that you would like to involve in the ceremony?
Do you want or need a rehearsal?
What music would you like to include in the course of the service?
Remember, it's going to be YOUR day... Make it YOUR way.