All you brides out there with months and months to plan? This one isn't for you. This post is for the brave brides. The ones who, when faced with the idea of waiting a year for their dream wedding, scoffed and said, "No, thank you." Here are five tips for planning a wedding if you choose to have a short engagement.
1. Budget and Prioritize
All brides have to do this, but for those with a limited time frame, it's even more important. Wedding planning is a virtual minefield of distractions. One minute you'll be doing research on where to find a wedding dress in your city, and the next thing you realize, you're looking at DIY napkin rings and two hours have passed. The two of you need to discuss what the most important things are, keeping your budget in mind. For some couples, they need a good band because everyone in their family loves to dance. For others, they could care less about the entertainment but tasty food is a non-negotiable. Decide what you both value, and move forward with those plans in mind.
2. Pick Two: Good, Fast, and Cheap
There's an old adage that basically states that when it comes to selecting goods and services, you can only have two of these three things. So, if you're on a limited budget and schedule, you should expect that your wedding details might not be of the highest quality. Likewise, if quality is your non-negotiable, expect to pay more for faster service. Both of these options are just fine, but it's always good to have realistic expectations at the outset of planning.
3. Delegate Well (and Wisely)
You're going to need help with all of this, so when friends and family volunteer, accept graciously. And when it comes to delegating, ask people to do things they're naturally gifted at or will enjoy. Their task will be done more efficiently and pleasantly than if you assign them something they have no skill or interest in. Also, you probably think it goes without saying how grateful you are for their assistance. It doesn't. Thank them often. Finally, although grooms often think that wedding planning isn't in their wheelhouse, your fella is going to have to get over that. Put him in charge of anything to do with his family or groomsmen, as well as any other planning details you agree on.
4. Learn to Let Go
Especially with others helping you, there are a lot of tiny details that you might need to let go of. Do you absolutely need a creative place setting, or are classic white linens just fine? Weddings are filled with laundry lists of decisions that are pretty much designed to make you insane. When you delegate, that means relinquishing control. Before you ask someone to do something, make sure that you're okay with whatever they complete. You don't have time to nitpick, so choose your battles very carefully.
5. Prepare for No-Shows
If you're getting married at the last minute, you may receive more "regrets" on your RSVP cards than you expected. Because you didn't give as much advance notice, your guests might already be committed to attending another event. Don't be offended. This is simply par for the course when planning a wedding quickly. Roll with it and try to get your RSVPs back as soon as possible so that you can secure the appropriate number for your wedding vendors. Online RSVPing, which can be done through your wedding website, might expedite the process.