Sometimes there is a fine line between wanting to personalize your event and totally breaking an etiquette rule. Here are 5 traditions you should feel free to omit or personalize, and 5 that are better off staying put.
You can let go of these, if you want:
1. Cake cutting ceremony-- If the idea of feeding each other is just not your idea of a good time, skip it. In fact, you don't even need to serve cake. You can opt for any number of desserts, or even a cheese and fruit plate.
2. Traditional registries-- Are you just not a butter dish kind of couple? That's okay. There are tons of alternative registries out there today, ranging from charities to honeymoons.
3. Bouquet and garter toss-- Do you love your friends too much to single them out and line them up? Thank you.
4. Dramatic exit-- You have forked over major time and moolah for this party. If you want to be the last ones to leave, by all means. We understand.
5. Large wedding-- Many couples want an intimate ceremony with only family and very close friends. You can absolutely invite more people to the reception.
Don't give up:
1. Thank you notes-- And no, tweets don't count. Even if you hashtag #thank you. Send handwritten notes within 3 months of receiving the gift.
2. Reception for ceremony guests-- Want to save yourself the expense of a reception? Elope to Vegas. If you invite your guests to a wedding ceremony, you should also host a reception. Although, for the record, it does not have to be elaborate. A simple party can suffice.
3. Leaving the registry off the invitation-- Is it convenient to include there? Yes. But it's still rude, so just don't.
4. Greeting your guests-- It's up to you whether you say hello to your peeps via a receiving line or not. But at some point, you should talk with each guest (even if just for a moment).
5. Gifts for your wedding party-- These people have been your indentured servants for the better part of a year. The least you can do is buy them a personalized knick knack they will never use again. But seriously, say thank you with a token of your affection.
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