My mother passed away a couple of years ago and I want to mention her on the wedding invitation because so many of her friends and relatives are invited. How should I do that?—Mercy, Shreveport, LA
Invitation wording can be tricky when involving a deceased parent. You want to avoid making it seem like they are hosting the wedding from beyond the grave. Also, depending upon how close your family is, it could be that some people you are inviting might be unaware that your mother has passed, so clarity is critical. The key is to put the emphasis on the couple, listing the parents of each. Yours could read something like this:
daughter of Robert Smith and the late Mary Smith,
son of Mr. & Mrs. Tom Smith
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage
Saturday, August 25, 2012...
At your wedding, you can acknowledge your mother in a variety of different ways. Some of the most common: a locket with her picture tied to your bouquet, an extra candle near the altar, a small framed photo on the guest book table, or playing her favorite song as your first dance. Just make sure you remember this is your wedding, not her memorial service. Only include things you want and that make you and your family joyful to remember.