Knowing who you are as a couple is critical to planning a wedding that is reflective of who you are. The best weddings are not the ones that come with the heftiest price tags or most lavish receptions. A wedding that guests most enjoy attending is one that immediately feels like the couple getting married. Your guests should walk into your ceremony and reception and immediately recognize you.
This is not to say that you can't be the most formal version of you, but there should be touches that people will instantly associate with you. For example, if the two of you are deeply committed to environmental charities and spend your weekends hiking, there should be some hints of that throughout. Example of small details would be plantable wedding favors or wildflowers in your bouquets.
The biggest mistake couples can make when planning a wedding is to borrow ideas that they don't connect with in some way. Your wedding should be more than a combination of pretty things you saw in magazines or at other weddings.
Talk with your fiance about what is important to you, and what you would like for your wedding to reflect about your new life together; design your wedding from there.
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