One of the main duties a groom must do is communicate well with his family. Direct communication between all parties is best, but sometimes there are misunderstanding or delicate issues, and it is critical that the groom take charge in these situations. The groundwork for future in-law relations is often laid during the wedding planning process. So, as much as the groom may want to avoid fireworks or confrontation over something as trivial as the color of the roses in the centerpieces, he needs to remember that trivial arguments can often cause permanent rifts. A groom is the official spokesperson for his family. If there is something his family needs to do, such as put together their guest list, he needs to be clear about the expectations. Often the groom's family can unnecessarily feel left out and assume it is the bride's wishes, rather than the groom's apathy.