Planning a wedding registry but not sure how to tell everyone? Remember: Most of your friends and family want to get you something that you actually want and won’t return. In fact, the ‘return factor’ can actually stir up a lot of angst for guests who want to buy you the perfect gift that you’ll always remember them for; no one wants to get you something you don’t like, won’t use, or that causes you more headaches. At the same time, you have to keep in mind that although your wedding is currently the center of your universe, it is not the center of theirs, and simply making the arrangements to be at your wedding can be time consuming enough. Which means that it's nice to make details like buying your gift as easy and accessible as possible.
Still, there's one essential wedding etiquette rule to consider before you start texting everyone your registry details: Don't put your registry information on your wedding invitations. Why? The focus of the invitation is supposed to be on the wedding, and it's best to avoid looking like you expect guests to bring a gift along with their best wedding style. So what are the best ways to share your registry tactfully and make it easy on guests? Here are four ideas to get you started.
Create a Wedding Website
The simplest and most effective place to share your registry information is on your wedding website. Today, wedding websites are welcomed and considered a normal and convenient accessory to the wedding. They are the perfect place for all the wedding details, and, bonus, can often be helpful for guests if they forget the invitation at home. Wedding websites are also great (and green!) because you can email them around every time you have an update.
Add an Insert to Your Invitation
Adding an insert to your invitation is a perfect way to provide your guests with other important wedding details that don’t belong on the invitation. Include the URL to your wedding website with a note that it will be updated frequently with the latest and greatest as you near the big day – you can even get specific about the kind of information they can find there to give a clue that this is where they’ll find the registry details. You can also include things like driving directions, attire, if you have any rules about children, and more, on the insert. If you think you have a large number of guests who are not so hip to the Internet, then you can include your registry information as well, but ideally you should leave it up to your website to share those essentials!
Keep Your Immediate Family Informed
One of the easiest way to pass your registry information around? Make sure that those closest to you have the registry information handy. It's likely your immediate family will receive phone calls or texts from guests with questions about what to get the two of you, and they'll be able to pass your registry details on with ease. These people could range from your parents to your siblings or your wedding party, or even a friend or relative hosting a bridal or couples shower. If you have any strong preferences about which registry you're favoring, or gifts you're really hoping receive, make sure they are aware and know what to communicate.
Start With Shower Invitations
Fortunately, bridal shower invitations are acceptable places to share the registry. Whether you’re having a traditional bridal shower or a co-ed couples shower, these events are typically an occasions to literally shower the guest of honor with gifts unless the host specifies otherwise. Since this is often the main event and people attending want to bring something, they’ll need this information handy. The invitation is an acceptable place because someone else is throwing the shower for you, so in effect, they are the ones telling guests where you are registered, not you.
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