Blue and pink wedding place setting with modern wood details
Photo: Michael Radford

So you just got engaged. Congratulations, and welcome to one of the most exciting times in your life! Chances are that after the initial glee subsided, a whole lot of questions took its place. Here are six initial wedding planning steps that will help you start your engagement off right:

Don't Rush Things

Don't rush picking a date. It's totally tempting to want to circle a day in red on the calendar right away, but there are so many factors to consider. Make sure you pick a date that works with your family members (you probably don't want the same anniversary as your new in-laws, right?), and if you can, also stay flexible so you can get the venue you really want.

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Set Up Your Website

Pick out your free wedding website. This tool is super simple to design and just may become your new wedding planning best friend. With the right wedding website, you can add all the essential details of your wedding day and start communicating with your guests (and sharing your registry information), stat.

Talk Things Through

Before you become really attached to something for your wedding, talk it out with your spouse-to-be. Before you start dreaming of eloping on a tropical beach, you should probably make sure that he doesn't consider inviting his 15 cousins a non-negotiable. Before you set your heart on a horse-drawn carriage you should probably make sure he isn't deathly afraid of horses, and so on. In the wedding planning game, adaptability is your best resource.

Find Ideas

Not to be totally self-serving, but now is the time to check out blogs and search for ideas. There will be a time when you should stop looking for fresh ideas (to avoid inspiration overload), but that will happen later. Not sure where to begin searching? Check out our Pinterest and Instagram accounts for new inspiration, or you can begin right here.

Bright pink peony, rose and ranunculus wedding bouquet
Photo: Michael Radford

Connect with Vendors

Focus on a couple of vendors right away. Venues, wedding planners, and photographers book really early, especially if you want to get married during busy season (late spring through early fall are usually the busiest months). You don't need to start thinking about smaller details like favors and shoes and passed appetizers yet. Ask your recently married friends for referrals, do your research, and select these major vendors first.

Focus on Each Other

Do not let your engagement overshadow your relationship. We totally understand why you only want to talk about peonies and dahlias for the next year, but your significant other may not feel the same way. Remember that this process is just about planning an event, and keep the prize in mind: marriage. Focus on strengthening your relationship during this time. Go out on plenty of dates and talk about anything but wedding planning.

Congratulations (again). We can't wait to see how your big day turns out!