Today's weddings are fraught with questions about modern-day etiquette, and that's especially true when it comes to the registry. From whether or not you need to create a gift list to purchase a present that's not included on the bride and groom's list, here's what you need to know about big-day gifts.
Why do couples still create wedding registries?
Most couples build at least one wedding registry because they know guests will want an approved-gift guide to purchase from. While modern couples are waiting longer to buy their first house, but moving in together at younger ages, they may not need all the traditional things included on a wedding registry in order to help fill a home. Instead, they might be thinking long-term with their registry, choosing items that will become their family heirlooms and pass-alongs to their own kids. Other couples might simply fill their registry with things they need or want to upgrade.
Do I have to create a wedding registry?
Ultimately, it's up to you, but most guests—especially an older generation of attendees—will be on the lookout for your gift list. It's nice to provide them with a selection of ideas you like. If you already have everything you need for your shared home, consider an alternative registry. You can request experience gifts, funds for your honeymoon, or subscription services you can use throughout your first year as a married couple.
How many wedding registries should we create?
Most couples build a gift list at one or two retailers or websites, but having three or four registries is not unheard of, especially if one is at a store that offers very niche items. You should also choose a mix of affordable items and pricier gifts, that way every guest can find a present that fits their budget.
Can I purchase a gift that's not on the couple's registry?
Of course! If you know the bride and groom well, feel free to follow your gut. These unexpected gifts can often be the most beloved presents the couple will open.
This story originally appeared on Martha Stewart Weddings.