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If it's time for you to order your wedding invitations, you are probably wondering what to include and how to phrase key details. As more couples pay for their own wedding, wording has changed significantly.  Here are a few helpful tips for making sure your wedding invitation accurately reflects your event.

Who's hosting? Someone gets top billing, and those people are generally the ones paying for (or the majority of) this event. It used to be that this was the parents of the bride, but less true for modern weddings.  If both sets of parents are contributing, make sure to include both sets of names on the invitation. With the most traditional wording, we've broken down examples of if you are paying for your own wedding, if her divorced parents are footing the bill, or if both sets are splitting the tab:

You are paying for the wedding:

Miss Anne Smith and Mr. Jack Jones request the honor of your presence at their marriage..

Divorced parents:

Mr. and Mrs. Emily White and Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Miss Anne Smith to Mr. jack Jones...

Both sets:

Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Jeff Jones request the honor of your presence at the marriage of Miss Anne Smith and Mr. Jack Jones

Of course, you can use more modern wording, but that is the basic idea.  Another popular way to word it, no matter who is paying, is: "Together with their families, Anne Smith and Jack Jones..."  It just depends on how traditional you wish to be.

When and where?  Give the date, time, and address of the ceremony, and mention the reception following. Examples: dinner and dancing following, join us for happy hour after the ceremony, tea and cake served after the wedding, etc.

Don't mention the registry. Although this is super convenient, it's not considered polite. Save that info for your wedding website, or for word of mouth.


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