Did you recently pop the question?! Congratulations! And now the process of actually planning your wedding begins...
There's no doubt that there are a lot of moving pieces when it comes to planning a wedding. It can certainly seem intimidating. As a groom, it probably seems like many of the details will be more aligned with the interests of your bride than yours. And while that may be partly true, it's worth acknowledging that there might be a cultural bias beaten into us guys — one that tells us that men shouldn't really get too involved in planning a wedding. That a wedding is really for the bride, that we're just supposed to show up and stand in the right place. Worse yet, there's a stigma that if we show too much interest in helping to plan the wedding, that it's somehow emasculating.
The truth is, planning your wedding is going to be a lot of fun. Simply put, you're planning a great big party. All of your closest friends and family are coming, you and your bride will receive a lot of gifts, there will dancing, drinking, the excuse to splurge on an awesome suit or tuxedo, and of course, lots of smiles. It's a heck of a kick-off to your new life together with your wife, don't you think?
Now, there's no denying that a lot of wedding planning is more suited towards the interests of your bride, but that doesn't mean that you should distance yourself. Yes, some of the wedding planning may not be up your alley, but there are plenty of things that you're going to really enjoy being a part of.
Don't believe me? OK, I'll prove it you. Have you ever listened to music, ever? Well, now you have the opportunity to actually hire a live band or a DJ and they have to play whatever you want them to. Do you like cake? Now you'll get to taste all of the best cakes around town and pick your favorite. Then you can hire a baker to make the biggest cake you've ever eaten — the kind that only fits in a cake truck!
The thing to remember is that at no other time in your life will you have an opportunity like the present to plan a big party for you and your bride. It will be completely one-of-a-kind and you'll see friends and family that you haven't seen in years.
To help you get in the wedding planning groove, I'm kicking off a series of groom-centered posts to give you a practical look inside the dynamic, challenging process we call planning a wedding — complete with insight from my revently married brother and a handful of other grooms. Before I got into the custom suit business, I worked as an engineer. And one day I got into a conversation with the machine shop manager about weddings, popping the question, and so on. He was reminiscing about his own wedding and telling me that even though the planning was a bit exhausting, by the time the big day arrived, that he and his wife really enjoyed themselves.
"It was just a really fun day," he said.
Those words have stuck with me to this day. And the sincere smile that he was wearing when he told me this story was the proof.
Again, congratulations on your engagement. You are going to have some fun!
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