Wedding Planning

Manage Wedding Anxiety with Massage

Getting married can be stressful – but this is one of our favorite ways to help you relax.

According to the Holmes & Rahe Scale of Life Events, getting married is the seventh most stressful event in ones life. While this is a very happy time for most couples, planning a wedding can seem like a full-time job and poses such stressors like financial worries, family drama, and decision-making conflicts. I’ve written about a few other ways to help cope with the pressures of planning your big day. However, if you are still looking for relief, maybe it’s time to indulge in regular massage treatments to help melt away pre-marital tensions.

The reason I encourage engaged couples to schedule regular massages during the planning period is threefold. First, during this busy time it’s imperative to have scheduled downtime built into your life. Otherwise, tasks have a way of taking over and time for relaxation and rejuvenation get pushed to the side. Second, scheduling couples’ massages are a great way for the two of you to relax side by side-literally. It’s also a way to stay connected to one another through this intense planning process. Third, receiving regular massages have endless health and stress-relief benefits. According to, massage can help in these ways:

  • Decreased anxiety.
  • Enhanced sleep quality.
  • Greater energy.
  • Improved concentration.
  • Increased circulation.
  • Reduced overall fatigue.

These benefits come in extra handy during the wedding planning process. You may find that planning is easier and more enjoyable when you have an outlet for any built up stress and anxiety. Your friends and family might thank you as well.

If you have never experienced a professional massage before, here’s what you can expect and what to look out for:

  • Most massage therapists work in a warm, quiet office.
  • Your therapist will spend the first few minutes gathering information about any specific areas you would like to focus on during your treatment.
  • Your therapist should leave the room while you undress and get situated on the massage table. It is up to you to disrobe to your level of comfort. Your massage therapist should be trained in ways to properly drape you to help you feel at ease.
  • Most therapists will turn on soft music to help relax you even further. You are not obligated to engage in conversation during your treatment.
  • The massage will feel different depending on what kind of massage you pay for. There are many different types of massage including Swedish, deep-tissue, hot-stone massage, etc. You can find a detailed description of each type here.
  • Your massage therapist should be licensed through your state. If you are unsure about their credentials, ask to see a diploma or a state license. Most practitioners will have these hanging on the wall.
  • Massages cost anywhere from $30-$200 depending on length of time, type of massage, and level of expertise. Many therapists will give you a discount if you sign up for multiple sessions at a time.
  • Make sure to drink plenty of water after your treatment. Massage dislodges toxins in the muscles that fluids will help flush out of your system.
  • Do not engage in strenuous activity soon after your massage. Your muscles will need time to repair themselves after your treatment.

Although it may seem too indulgent for you and your partner to receive regular massage treatments, the benefits may outweigh the costs in the long run. Decreasing your stress levels before the wedding will help you and your spouse-to-be start your marriage off with ease.