Wedding Planning

Newlywed Perspective: The Importance of a Love Letter

First things first: I love Pinterest. I can’t help it – it’s inevitable.

First things first: I love Pinterest. I can’t help it – it’s inevitable. I mean, where else can you find photos and links to all the coolest DIY crafts, best recipes (and enough variations on the chocolate chip cookie to keep me busy for years) not to mention one of the best tools to organize wedding inspiration (which, by the way, is all over there place over here at Delightfully Engaged!) that I’ve ever seen.

I don’t even care that I’m not planning a wedding. I’ll pin inspiration boards all day long…it’s kind of a happy thing in my world.

Anyway, the real point of this is that recently, on Pinterest, I came across a list of ten things to do on the day of your wedding. I don’t actually remember any of the ten things – which is why I have to pin things in the first place – but it did remind me of one thing that my husband and I did a couple days before ours.

I feel a teensy bit cheesy putting this out here for the world, but it was probably one of the highlights (for both of us) of our wedding and all of the buildup to it: we wrote each other letters. And then, about two days before the big day, we met up at one of our favorite hiking spots and we read them to each other.

Before I go any further, I should probably let you know that I am the letter-writer in this twosome. My husband is the numbers guy. But I think that by the time we actually had our letters written and were climbing up a mountain to read them, he was more excited about the idea than I was. And while the reading-out-loud to each other experience ended up being pretty emotional, it has become one of my favorite memories – as clear and as intimate as saying our vows.

If there’s one thing I think everyone should do before their wedding, it’s this. The opportunity to spend some alone time together in what is mostly likely an incredibly busy week is an argument all of its own – but the chance to sit down and think about what you really love and really respect about your soon-to-be spouse, and then tell them those things, is one of the most loving and encouraging experiences that I (insert humble opinion here, seriously) think you and your significant other can have.

If you get a chance, give it a shot. I truly think that the memory (and the letter) will be something you cherish forever.