What Grooms Need to Know About Planning a Wedding
Most importantly, you should definitely be involved.
Did you recently pop the question? And she said yes? Congratulations! Now the process of actually planning your wedding—as a team—begins. Not sure what to expect? To prepare yourself for the journey ahead, take these considerations to heart. The takeaway? You’re integral to the wedding planning process. Believe us, your bride wants your input and help, as well as your support.
Rethink Your Role
There’s no doubt that there are a lot of moving pieces when it comes to planning a wedding. It can certainly seem intimidating. As a groom, it probably seems like many of the details will be more aligned with the interests of your bride than yours. And while that may be partly true, it’s worth acknowledging that there might be a cultural bias beaten into us guys—one that tells us that men shouldn’t really get too involved in planning a wedding. That a wedding is really for the bride, that we’re just supposed to show up and stand in the right place. Worse yet, there’s a stigma that if we show too much interest in helping to plan the wedding, that it’s somehow emasculating. None of this should be taken seriously! It’s not just her wedding, it’s yours too, and working together is what marriage is all about.
Find Your Strengths
Yes, some of the wedding planning may not be up your alley, but there are plenty of things that you’re going to really enjoy being a part of. You’ll have the opportunity to actually hire a live band or a DJ and give input for your party playlist. You’ll get to sample all of the best cakes around town and pick your favorite. Then you can hire a baker to make the biggest cake you’ve ever eaten—the kind that only fits in a cake truck! And if you love spending time online, you’ll likely enjoy helping build your wedding website. Split up the tasks so that both of you enjoy the process (but also understand that you’ll have to do some not-so-fun stuff, too).
The truth is, most of planning your wedding is going to be a lot of fun. All of your favorite people are coming, you and your bride will receive a lot of gifts, there will dancing, drinking, the excuse to splurge on an awesome suit or tuxedo, and of course, lots of smiles. It’s a heck of a kick-off to your new life together with your wife, don’t you think? The thing to remember is that at no other time in your life will you have an opportunity like the present to plan a big party for you and your bride. It will be completely one-of-a-kind and you’ll see friends and family that you haven’t seen in years.